‘You don’t just pick up trashy guys off the street!’ : Snobby Woman Criticizes Friend's Choice of Date for Quarterly Gala, Insisting He's Not as Successful as the Other Attendees

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    Human body - Posted by u/throwawayiceicebaby 9 hours ago ^ AITA for taking an "unsuccessful" man to my friend's fancy gala?
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    Font - I (F25) work in AI/tech and a lot of my friends and I from my college program and work are fortunately well off. One of my friends (F25) hosts these quarterly black-tie galas that are honestly super cool because she's great at planning events.
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    Font - She kept begging me to bring a date to her February gala, and was even sending me the social medias of a bunch of guys from college and this company we interned at. Honestly, I never really vibed with any of the guys from school because I was hyper focused on studying and I never really clicked with them.
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    Font - I go to this ice cream shop near me a lot, and there's a cute guy who runs the shop. I've been trying to get out of my shell a little more, so I finally asked him for his number and asked him if he would like to go to my friend's party with me after we texted for a bit.
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    Font - I told my friend that I had a surprise date so she would get off my back. At the party when he introduced himself, she seemed kind of off put, and I feel a little bad for him too because he seemed a bit awkward but I think he warmed up as the night went on. He texted me afterwards and said he had a good time (although it could be that he was just trying to be polite to me.)
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    Font - After the party my friend told me that I was being disrespectful to the time and energy she put into planning by "picking up random guys off the street" to go with me to her gala. She also said that I was rude to my date by bringing him there because he wasn't "successful as everyone else" and "obviously and ashamed." felt uncomfortable
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    Font - I kind of apologized to her reflexively because I felt bad for making her feel disrespected. However I'm starting to feel like her reaction was pretty over the top and snobby. AITA?
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    Font - tosser9212 9 hr. ago Supreme Court Just-ass [110] NTA. You asked the guy because you were interested in him, not because of his social status. Your friend is an insufferable snob.
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    Font - DeclutteringNewbie 3 hr. ago ΝΤΑ But never bring a first date to meet friends or family. Social dynamics are weird. There are too many potential landmines. Once you've dated someone for a while, then you can invite them to meet your friends. That's a safer strategy.
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    Font - The EthicalRoaster 9 hr. ago NTA. I'm sorry to break it to you, but your friend sounds like an elitist piece of work. She begged you to bring a date. So you brought a date. Now she's upset he wasn't "good enough"? A fellow human being is somehow unqualified to attend a party because it's full of people who are "more successful"? That's messed up. I do hope you gave him a heads up on what kind of party it was going to be so he wouldn't feel uncomfortable if he's not into fancy tech galas,
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    Font - PsilosirenRose 9 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [75] NTA "Random men off the street" ?! This woman isn't your friend. She's an AH.
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    Font - facinationstreet 9 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [93] she's a quant finance genius None of this excuses her behavior. None of this makes her behavior excusable or acceptable. If she's such a 'genius' you'd think she'd know better.

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